Sunday, March 25, 2018

Why I don't watch Doc Martin any more



Doc Martin is a British ITV medical dramedy that has run continuously since 2004 (series takes a year off in between showings). The series depicts a fictional surgeon, Martin Ellingham, whose sudden onset of a fear of blood had caused him to retreat from his career in a busy London hospital to a sleepy fictional Cornwall town of Portwenn as a general practitioner, where the run-ins with blood would presumably be less frequent. The scenery is spectacular and the characters are suitably quirky.

Though it's never stated that Doctor Ellingham, or "Doc Martin" as the locals call him (to his uptight chagrin), is on the Autism Spectrum, in one episode a character playing a psychologist flatly said so. In addition, Doc exhibits many of the markers of Aspergers, including social deficits, appearing to lack empathy, unusual facial expression or postures, intense interest in one or two 'special interests' (medicine and clocks), no social filter, and etc.

The show presents the typical trope of fish out of water, and the fish is Martin and the waters are Aspergers. His gruff and to-the-point manner with no filter means the character has absolutely no bedside manner. He is a rule follower, and isn't nuanced. This means the character does not handle situations sensitively, either socially or medically. He has no friends, not for lack of trying on the people of the village's part. His empty social life doesn't bother him. He is single minded, once on a track he is like a bloodhound on the trail, nothing can make him give up. His main saving grace is that he can diagnose like nobody's business and he is never medically wrong.

He falls in love with school teacher Louisa, deeply. After many seasons, he gets up the nerve to ask her out and they begin a relationship. Of course, Martin isn't romantic and he often ruins dates or social situations with his bluntness. But what Louisa falls in love with are his positive qualities: he is loyal, courageous, brilliant, dedicated, a good listener, and in his own way, he cares deeply for Louisa and would never abandon or hurt her.

Just as in a neuro-typical relationship, an Autistic person has good qualities and irritating qualities. What I grew weary of is the writers' attempt to make all the compromises occur on Martin's side. Despite the character being unromantic, which Louisa knew going in, Louisa constantly complains Martin is not romantic. Despite Martin's abhorrence of social situations, Louisa constantly complains that he never wants to go out. And so on. Martin tries valiantly for Louisa's sake to adjust to her needs, which I found admirable. Louisa is never shown to be patient with Martin or make any compromises on her part. She just yells at him a lot for his deficits, making him feel crushed and bereft. Or she gives him the silent treatment, which, he doesn't understand why and he retreats back to medicine or clocks.

The series became all about Martin's inability to be the man Louisa wants, and it never focuses on his good qualities. A decent, loyal, brilliant, caring man is something to be valued, but the writers only deal with Martin's negative traits.

This is how people on the Autism Spectrum are often portrayed. The subtle or not so subtle issues with an autistic person are that they must change in order to fit in to a neuro-typical world, or worse, change in order to function at all.

Yet Doc Martin functions perfectly well. He had a brilliant career in London, and though he is dealing with a phobia, is making a success of his second career in Portwenn. He has a love interest, a satisfying hobby (clock repair), and soon, a son. He has two aunts who love him, a home, and a life. Just like anybody else. But these things are seen as less than, because he is autistic.

It's been my observation that people on the Spectrum (myself included) can and do function well by making accommodations on behalf of fitting in to the society around us, but also working in tandem with the culture by making our own unique accommodations.

But in Doc Martin, it's all about how Martin must change to make Louisa happy, never that Louisa must also change to make Martin happy.

Another television show that has recently been released that explicitly features a main character on the Spectrum is The Good Doctor, on ABC. The character is Resident surgeon Shaun Murphy at St Bonaventure Hospital. Shaun has a unique ability to visualize any part of the body in 3D, as well as an eidetic memory. These talents are brought up in the interview and touted by his mentor, Hospital President Dr Glassman. Glassman advocates for hiring Shaun, "despite" his autism. Other interviewers worried that Shaun's lack of bedside manner would hinder the good qualities he has, as well as any unpredictable responses he might emit when in stressful situations, such as occur in surgery. By a close vote, Shaun is hired.

I've enjoyed the presentation of how an Autistic character functions in a stressful employment situation. Shaun's 'special interest' of course, is medicine, but over the course of the show, Shaun branches out and enjoys watching football games, makes a friend or two, and even has a romantic encounter with a female friend who values him for who he is.

The show presents a young man functioning in ways that are surely Autistic, but are in parallel with all other people who also function in stressful situations and come up with their own solutions. For example, when stressed, Shaun holds and manipulates a plastic knife his dead brother had given him. A female neuro-typical character twists her hair. Others go home and drink.

In an early episode, a fellow resident (Dr Claire Brown) and Shaun are attempting to solve a medical problem and as a colleague, Brown asks Shaun a series of questions. He never answers. After a while she noticed that Shaun does not answer questions but will respond if she makes a statement. She altered her communication style and they began to engage with each other. Just like neuro-typical people do.

In another episode, a friend visiting Shaun's apartment made note of the unusual configuration of his furniture and the eclectic mix of it. As a boy, Shaun had lived homeless for a while with his beloved brother in an abandoned school bus. He arranged his apartment furniture to mimic the layout of the bus. This comforted him and reminded him of home. The furniture itself was eclectic because different caring adults in his life at that time had given the items to him. The bookcase came from the local librarian, the bureau from a teacher, and so on. It comforted him to have these things around him and to remember their kindness. And don't neuro-typical folks arrange their furniture for maximum comfort and maintain keepsakes (usually photographs) to remind them of good times and nice people?

The show presents an autistic person functioning in society as a whole person. He is a bundle of quirks, eccentricities, attributes, and traits that make up a complex person, just like any other person. Sometimes Shaun is a jerk, not because he is autistic, but because he is acting like a jerk. Sometimes he makes accommodations on behalf of the society around him, and sometimes the people around him make accommodations on behalf of Shaun. What a refreshing way to show someone on the Spectrum.

Though both are medical dramas, I enjoy The Good Doctor much more than Doc Martin. Maybe in the future the television writers will have more characters like Shaun Murphy. Meanwhile, Doctor Ellingham? Some advice. You're too good for Louisa.


4 comments:

Grace to You said...

This post was really thought-provoking. There is someone in my life who, though not officially on the spectrum, has many of the characteristics you mentioned. I have definitely done more accommodating in the relationship and have not tried to get the other person to change very much because I have always recognized the futility of doing so. My struggle has been to continue to love this person…I have often thought of giving up on the relationship because it’s hard. Your post have encouraged me to continue on…thanks for that.

Elizabeth Prata said...

Hi Grace To You,

Thanks so much and I hope things in the relationship you have improve in the future as you go along.

It's not that a person on the Spectrum "gets better" as they age, but we accumulate a body of experiences that inform us so that we can navigate around our deficits better. I recognize the importance of relationships and the social times that go with them (making memories, connecting, etc). So over the years I've added 'going out' to the things that stretch me. I started with once a year, and now I'm up to 3x/year. I know what I need to do to save energy ahead of the social time and I prepare. I know what I need afterwards and I make sure to do that.

As far as language deficits go, sometimes I make small notes and put them in my pocket. Even if I don't drag them out during the encounter, I know they are there if I need them. When I go home I make notes as to what people told me so I can bring it up the next time, as in "How did the doctor appointment go?" or "How was the anniversary party you organized?" i.e. small talk- on paper.

When I'm agitated I used to flap my hands, now I wiggle my toes in my shoes so it doesn't make people uncomfortable.

So there are things the older Aspergers or Autistic person can do in order to accommodate the culture without demanding that the person stops presenting entirely. So there is hope for improvement. :)

Eugenie said...

Thank you, thank you, thank you! I have very few friends and I am aware that it must be because of something I'm doing that is off, but I've not been able to pinpoint the problem. I greatly appreciate that you value this person and put forth the effort to maintain this relationship, no doubt it is an important connection for your friend.

Eugenie said...

Thank you for your post and comment. I am baffled sometimes by the fact that society at large accommodates loads of rude and abusive behaviors but at the same time is not willing to overlook a bit of social awkwardness.